I need an outside opinion!
6 yrs ago, I had my son. When I was about a month pregnant, my ex moved to Alberta. He quickly got a gf, and had another baby (our sons are 10 months apart). I have NO contact with my ex, he has never met my son or done anything to support him. My son and I were very involved with my ex’s parents that lived 5 hours away from us. We would speak constantly, and I would drive hours to visit whenever possible.
A year ago they moved to Alberta too, and now live in the same house as my ex. Our contact gradually got lesser, and conversations felt very forced. I have stopped making any effort to contact them, or provide updates, and have not heard from them at all.
Although my ex, and his new baby mama are no longer together, the parents are completely involved in the other grand-child’s life, and would bend over backwards to help the child and mother in any way. I spent years listening to them tell me how much they dislike this gf, and how poorly she treats them.
I’m happy they’re involved in the other child/mother’s life, and I would never want that to change – but, I forgave what my ex did to me, so his parents could have a relationship with my son. I have put in more than enough effort texting/calling and driving. I do not know what to do. I don’t want to take away my son’s grandparents, but I also do not want them involved only when it is convenient for them.
Do I cut all ties for my son’s sake, or do I stick it out and hope it gets better?