Last year my brother/sister in law told me the 2nd week of December that they weren’t going to be exchanging christmas gifts because they couldn’t afford it.
By this time we had already bought and wrapped their kids gifts. I dropped their gifts off before Christmas because my brother/sister in law couldn’t commit to them coming for Christmas dinner.
I’ve called their kids on their birthdays and wished them a great day. My daughters bday and gr 8 graduation was last week and she didn’t receive a call for either event. We invite them for bbqs and other get togethers all the time and it’s always a “wait to see what else is going on”. We have thanksgiving here and on two of those meals we 1. Waited 20 mins for them to get here to eat because they were late (they lived 6 blocks away) and 2. We were sitting down to eat and they came in saying they weren’t eating because they just came from McDonald’s. Now this is 6 people that wouldn’t be eating the meal that I counted them to partake in.Â
Ive already had the conversation with him about putting us on the family priority list and to stop making us an option for if something better comes up. And sadly it doesn’t matter. If it were anyone else I’d already cut ties and move on, but he’s my only sibling.Â
How do I get it through to him that me and family are not going to be the “option on the side anymore?”
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