My friend and I had our kids less than a month apart. Both babies are happy and healthy, but she keeps on comparing our lives and kids and has decided that mine is better than hers. She says things like “I’m probably not going to be as good a mom as you” and is fixated on how the kids compare to each other, going so far as calling her baby “a monster” while mine is “ideal”.
I was supportive and reassuring at first because I know how hard it is. Having a baby is less sunshine and rainbows than it is diapers and sleep deprivation but, last month I told her that she needed to stop saying things like that. She said she would and nothing has changed.
Now, I’ve started turning down invitations to go spend time with her because her negativity is draining and uncomfortable. I feel bad about walking away from a friendship when she’s clearly not having an easy time, but I don’t want to be friends with someone who consistently makes me feel bad about having a normal, happy baby which I must stress she does too! What do I do?
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