Almost two years ago, my Grandpa died and a year after this, my grandma started seeing another man.
It’s been almost a year and now it’s become clear that my grandma is in an emotionally abusive relationship. She’s segregated herself from the family, never calls, and when she does, she doesn’t sound like the person she used to be.
When I visited her one day, as soon as her boyfriend saw me, he yelled at me for a full 30 minutes and wouldn’t let her or I speak. She was terrified of him and even more afraid of saying something to make him angry. He’s done the same thing to my parents and her other kids.
He’s encouraging her not to call or keep up her relationships and to sign most of her assets into his name. He threatens to leave her if she doesn’t ‘fix’ things. He makes excuses for his behavior and blames us for his outbursts.
She thinks he’s amazing and wants us all to magically love him, but things are very tense because of the way he treats her and us and we’re having a hard time supporting them. My grandma loves him and is terrified he’ll leave her. The rest of the family is terrified he’ll stay.
My family doesn’t know what to do to help her and we were hoping maybe you would have a suggestion
Thanks Beat Breakfast,
Grandma’s Got A Brand New (D-)Bag