We’re following up with Beat listeners to see how they made out after they sent in their questions to us – and you – for help. Every Friday, it’s a Follow-Up Friday on the Beat Breakfast Panel.
Q:My husband has no manners. He spits, passes gas, burps and eats with his mouth open. When we go out in public, I cringe waiting for him to embarrass me which always happens. It’s gotten to the point that I don’t want to be seen with him. I thought over time I could somehow change him and “teach him” manners, but he fights me on it every time and says this is who he is. He was never quite this bad when we first met. Either that or I didn’t allow myself to see it. I love him, he’s a good person, who works hard and truly cares for me, but this is testing my patience and our relationship. What can I do to change him, or is there even any hope that I can? R in Kitchener
A: Hi Beat Breakfast. So I decided I would try a different approach suggested by a Beat listener on Facebook and secretly record him when we went out. I also enlisted some friends to shame him. I think the combination might have at least made him realize what’s he’s doing. He apologized and he’s making an effort to change! Time will tell. Thanks Beat Breakfast and Beat listeners! R in Kitchener
Q:I’m engaged to be married next September and all of the sudden my younger sister who recently got engaged announces that she and her fiance are planning their wedding for May. I’m very upset and we aren’t on speaking terms right now because of this. It’s caused a big fight between us. This should be my moment and now it will have to be chaos and stress for family members who have to attend two of everything leading up to our wedding days. I’m even concerned that family may suggest a dual wedding shower. I love my sister but this is something I don’t want to share with her. I think she should move her date. Should I back down or stand firm? So angry I could scream in Kitchener
A:I appreciate the comments, but I honestly think most would feel the way I do if they were in my shoes. One wedding is a financial burden for most people to attend, never mind two in a short period of time. I’ve decided to just try and continue my planning and enjoy the year leading up to my wedding. My sister and I have spoken, but it definitely will continue to put a strain on my relationship with her. Hopefully once the dust settles, we can enjoy some planning together. For now, I’m still feeling down about the whole thing.
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