Good morning Beat Breakfast! I desperately need your help. My husband and I have been together for over 8 years now. We have two small children together. He also has a daughter, who’s 16. She’s lived with us full time since I came into the picture. Her and I got very close, would go shopping together, date nights, talk about boys. She’d come to me with issues she has and I would help her through them. She even confided in me she’s not a virgin (something her father still doesn’t know). My husband doesn’t like to ground her or get her in trouble. Her curfew is 10, but not once has she been home by curfew. She has chores to do at home but if they don’t get done, it doesn’t matter to him. He doesn’t seem to get bothered by her not letting him know where she’s going or when she’ll be home. She steals all of my things, and I mean EVERYTHING. Doesn’t return any of my belongings. Then loses all my stuff. I’ve told her time and again not to take my things without asking.
She’s now decided that she would rather live at her grandmother’s (without saying it, simply just by never coming home), but still has a room full of her belongings at our house. My husband won’t let me pack up her things and insists that she still lives with us (she hasn’t stepped foot in the house in 6 months!). It’s something we constantly get into a fight about. He’s even blamed me once because I get upset that she steals my belongings.
How do I get it across to him that she doesn’t live with us anymore, that we could use her old room for our kids so they don’t have to share anymore. How can I get it through to him that it’s not my fault? I’m sick of it always causing a fight between us! Please help! – Stop the fighting in Waterloo!
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