I got engaged this past summer to my BF of seven years.
These past two years I’ve gained at least 50lbs. Life got tough and unfortunately I use food and wine to deal. I know it’s a problem and I’m working on it, but my fiancee doesn’t care. However, his mother LOVES to comment on my weight EVERYTIME we talk. I’ve told my fiancee about it and he says he’s spoken to her, but she stills comments and it hurts my feelings.
This past Thanksgiving, we went over to his family for dinner, and the first thing his grandmother says to me, in front of everyone, is “wow you’ve gotten fat”. I was so hurt and humiliated, I turned around and went home. My fiancee did leave with me. I am so tired of his family being so critical and putting me down.
My question is this: how do I get them to stop hurting my feelings? Should I be the one to say something or should it be my fiancee speaking up? Also, will their attitude poison our marriage over time if it doesn’t stop? A in Cambridge
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