We’re following up with Beat listeners to see how they’re doing after they sent in their questions to us – and you – for help. Every Friday, it’s a Follow-Up Friday on the Beat Breakfast Panel!
I got a number of text messages that were meant for my husband from my dad. My husband is very close with my dad – I don’t have a brother so he’s like the son he never had. I’m not surprised they text, I’m surprised what they’re texting about. Apparently my husband has borrowed some money from my dad. I didn’t think we had any issues with money but now I’m not sure. We aren’t rich, but we aren’t struggling to make ends meet either. I’m hurt and embarrassed he’s gone to my dad without mentioning a word to me. Do I say something to him, to my dad or wait it out and see if he mentions anything? -Money mystery in Cambridge
Where Are They Now?
Hi Beat Breakfast! After listening and reading the FB comments, I felt better and decided to wait it out and see if perhaps this is indeed a surprise gift from my husband. I must admit, reading the responses was really helpful. You guys are awesome! Thanks again so much. I’ll update you again and let you know what – if anything – happens! Merry Christmas!!!! - Money mystery in Cambridge
My husband and I have wanted to get away on a warm weather trip for a few years and have been saving to go and take our kids with us. They’re 12 and 14 and think that will be happening over March break, but we want to surprise them and take them away to Hawaii over the holidays. Why not have a warm weather Christmas?! Most of our families are sad we won’t be together over the holidays but they understand we just want some family time with just the four of us. We’re making sure to spend family time with everyone before we leave. What we didn’t expect was my brother-in-law and his family going ahead paying for it! Surprise! I’m incredible flattered but I just can’t accept it. My husband on the other hand doesn’t seem to have a problem with it. He says it’s because we have been really helpful to his brother’s family – we let them live with us when they were struggling – and this is their way of saying thank you, but I think this is totally unnecessary and just too much. We helped them because it was the right thing to do and expected nothing in return. The arguments between my husband and I have put a huge damper on the trip and the holiday and I don’t know what to do. Do I accept the offer or stand my ground?
Where Are They Now?
After may long discussions – and a few more arguments with my husband, lots of hand wringing and reading and rereading the comments on the Beat Facebook page, I decided to accept the offer. I realized that not accepting the gesture from my brother would have been disrespectful and a little selfish on my part. I was over thinking things and let my pride get in the way of what was a very genuine and kind thing to do, and important for his family to say thanks. Thanks so much for using my question on the air and to beat listeners for being at times very blunt with their advice, but I needed it! Off to Hawaii we go! Muhalo! (That’s thank you in Hawaiian)
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