We’re following up with Beat listeners to see how they made out after they sent in their questions to us – and you – for help. Every Friday, it’s a Follow-Up Friday on the Beat Breakfast Panel.
Over Christmas I went to a party at a friends place and we did a secret Santa exchange. My friend and his wife are huge Game of Throne fans and I had a few bottles of Game Of Thrones wine, so I gifted them one. The next day on Facebook they thanked “our Secret Santa for the very thoughtful gift” explaining how much they loved it, but someone else responded and said “you’re welcome” and took credit for the gift! Who does that, especially at Christmas!? It’s been a few weeks. Do I say something or just leave it be? Gobsmacked in Guelph
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First of all thanks so much for the help. Listening made me realize how silly the whole thing is. I think it’s just nice to be acknowledged at times and I was angry that I didn’t get the credit for a gift that was so perfect for them. I decided to take your advice and let it go. Although it infuriated me, in the grand scheme it’s nothing to lose sleep over. And, as others have said to me, the person who wrote ‘you’re welcome’ may have even just been joking around. To the gift credit stealer… you are welcome and you only got the better of me momentarily! Gobsmacked in Guelph
My boyfriend’s parents are visiting my boyfriend’s sister who’s studying in BC and will be coming back on Christmas Eve. My boyfriend’s mom usually hosts Christmas, but due to the trip, my BF and I offered to host. She reluctantly agreed and she has sent me multiple message already stressing about cooking the meal even though we agreed I would be taking care of it. She is messaging me extensive lists of what to get so she can start prepping when they get home. She has very specific ideas on what and how things need to be prepared. Adding to this drama is this will be the the first Christmas my parents and my boyfriend’s parents meet, and yes, it will be over Christmas dinner.
How do I tell my boyfriend’s mom – again – that I will take care of the cooking without upsetting her and causing unnecessary drama? Christmas is coming in Kitchener.
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Hi Beat Breakfast. Well things didn’t quite go as planned. Christmas arrived and so did my boyfriend’s mom that morning with food in tow that she bought to make even though I had told her not to. I had already started preparing quite a bit of food and she insisted that we use the food she brought. I already had a bird in the oven but apparently it wasn’t up to her standards. I didn’t care to fight, so I let he be and we had two of everything, including two turkey’s. My parents arrived to an awkward scene of two Christmas dinners being prepared and after things relaxed a bit – all the food came out and that’s when my boyfriend’s mother got upset that we were all eating more of the food I prepared than her’s. We all insisted that we were eating a bit of everything, but she just wasn’t having it, and left offended that after all the work she put in, it wasn’t being eaten. I’m not kidding. My boyfriend and his dad tried to get her to stay – I did not – and my parents were stunned at what was happening. So she collected her food, and she and my boyfriend’s dad left. I haven’t spoken to her since and my parents aren’t planning on getting together with them anytime soon. I’ll let you know if and when that happens. Thanks to everyone for the support and Happy New Year! Christmas is coming in Kitchener