My brother’s second child was born on Friday afternoon. I found out on Saturday, only because my sister-in-law’s sister posted a collage of photos of her holding the new baby. My brother did not contact myself, nor my parents in any way to announce the birth of his child. We all understand new parents don’t always want visitors right away and he could have texted or called us and said “we don’t want visitors yet” and we would have respected that, but we did expect some sort of notification that the baby was born.
I sent my brother a text saying congratulations and he never responded to me (he did text my mom saying she and my father have a half hour time slot to visit- meanwhile my SIL’s family had been there 24 hours already). My parents stayed 3 minutes and left because it was so awkward (my brother wasn’t even there).
I waited 3 days after her birth and finally texted my brother a VERY honest text saying I was hurt that I had to find out from someone else’s Facebook post that my niece was born.
He did not like that. Now, I feel like when I have kids (in the next couple years) and he becomes an uncle for the first time, I don’t want anyone to notify him. Am I overreacting? Also, do I have a hope of having a relationship with my nieces while my brother and I are on the outs? I love those girls so much!
-Aunty P, Guelph
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